镜子或不镜像？
镜子或不镜像？
There are a number of courses available that teach you how to mirror body language in others and how to understand and mirror people's styles.
他们建议，如果你与他们交往的人交往，你也应该。
Matching the Other Person
他们还建议您匹配另一个人的语音，起搏和拐点，并尽可能多地做到它们。
这些技术都集中在镜像和反思中，以帮助您建立即时融洽关系。
Building Rapport
I propose, however, that instead of building rapport, these mirroring techniques can destroy it.
They can also destroy your credibility and trust. Why is that?
If you are focusing on mirroring someone's body language or style, then you are obviously not focusing on them. Instead, you're keeping the focus on you, e.g. how you are sitting, how you are talking.
It's About You Not Them
The more you focus on you, the more the person you're mirroring will feel it and subsequently, no rapport will be established.
如果您专注于镜像，您的聆听技巧也会受到影响。
Active Listening
尝试积极倾听某人的肢体语言，你会看到同时不可能。事实上，你将不会非常有效。
People will intuitively pick up if you are mirroring them and will know you're not being authentic.
明显的技术
If you're using mirroring as a "technique" to build rapport, chances are high that the person you're talking with will intuitively know that you are using a "technique" on them.
他们也将得出结论你不是真实的，不能信任，可能试图操纵它们。显然，在这种情况下，所有的融洽关系都丢失了。
判断他人
如果你已经决定一个人的项目，那么有效地有效地有效地“判断”那个人并将它们放在一个盒子里。
因此，当您与他们进行对话时，您将为您的判断提供乘坐。
您的所有聆听都将通过您的判断过滤，因此您不会真正听到所说的内容。
Conversational Flow
人们会直观地接受你判断它们的事实，这将对谈话的流动产生负面影响，因此将对互连产生负面影响。
Forget about consciously mirroring. Instead, come to a conversation with no judgements and only with the intention of helping your potential client.
You will then find that very quickly, without you consciously doing anything, you will naturally start to mirror their body language and style.
镜像是潜意识的
When you have reached the point of subconsciously mirroring someone, you will know that you are in rapport.
I recommend that from time to time you briefly become the observer (I say briefly so you do not lose the flow and connection) in a conversation.
Observe your own body language and that of the person to whom you're talking. Also, observe the way you are talking.
No Conscious Effort
如果没有意识的努力，你可能会观察到镜像正在发生。
When you are mirroring without trying, you are in authentic rapport.
由Tessa Stowe贡献
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