Assertiveness - Overcome Conversation Power Plays: Five Steps to Success
Assertiveness - Five Steps to Success
当你知道你应该“闭嘴和听”时，你真的想谈到你的观点，你有选择。
按照以下步骤回收您自己的权力。
你知道当你处于片面的对话时，你有多么沮丧，你有一些重要的话要说，你似乎无法通过。
Overcome Conversation Power Plays
In a对话能力发挥，假设如果有人可以成功避免回应你，他或她赢了。
You are supposed to fold your tent and silently steal away-or the modern equivalent, just shut up and listen and act as if the most powerful person in control.
如果你保持安静，你同意，她赢了。
但是......你不必成为一个失败者。
Become More Assertive in Just Two Days!
自信技巧
Instead of just fantasying violence or giving up in disgust, use these steps.
1. Repeat yourself
是的，第一个自信步骤是简单的，只需重复之前忽略的单词。
如果你不get a response...
2.回答他们所说的，简要介绍一下
Then immediately say
“我刚才说......”and repeat yourself again.
如果他还没有回复并继续他的原始点......
3.反馈他们刚才使用这些单词
"I understand that you (want, believe, intend) to (repeat his point). What I don't understand is how that relates to ...."Now repeat your original point again.
仍然没有回复？
4. Up the assertiveness pressure again by commenting on the conversation
“我已经说过这3次，你的表现得好像你根本没有听到我。”
Now, depending on your objective, you have more assertiveness choices. Here are two possibilities.
5A。如果您的目标是进行合作，请说出来
"I need your view (or response to what I told you) in order to help you accomplish (a mutual objective)."
或者
5B。如果你想融合这种情况并让他拯救面部，而你脱升力奋斗
you can assume the blame for the uncomfortable conversation.
“对不起，我一定不能明确地沟通......”
经常在第一个或两个中停止功率播放。
You can go to step 5 a or b, at any time, in order to refocus the conversation.
这篇文章由Laurie Weiss，Ph.D.，敢于说明的作者提供贡献！
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