Easy Tips for Understanding Children's Misbehaviour
Understanding Children's Misbehaviour
孩子们在母亲和父亲周围行为不端，因为父母在他们的反应中可以预测为洗衣机周期。
改善或塑造儿童的行为很容易，如果首先，您可以理解他们不当行为的目的，然后改变您的回复。
Four Types Of Misbehaviour
There are four types of misbehaviour that you need to know about.
“是最严重的注意力？”
父亲在育儿研讨会上问过父亲
Good question!
“是的”我说。“但这并不那么简单”
Attention Seeking
所有的不端行为都是最重要的是引起注意，难以忽视，并且通常从父母，兄弟姐妹或成年人获得一些关注的衡量标准。
These four common types of misbehaviour achieve one of three goals.
你的肠道反应是了解不端行为目标的最佳指南。
如果您不确定只是响应，因为您的感觉表明和您孩子的回应是一个确定的指标。
The Four Types Of Misbehaviour Are
1. Notice Me behaviours
These behaviours include clowning, cuteness, some eating problems, interruptions, shyness, showing-off and whining.
他们在认为世界围绕着他们的幼儿非常常见。
2.帮助我的行为
These behaviours include incompetence, laziness, forgetfulness and untidiness which are all great ways to keep parents in children's service.
当父母通过提醒来帮助我的行为时，为孩子的整理和做事很快就会无助！
Both behaviour types achieve the goal of attention.
如果你感到恼火或沮丧，你知道你有注意的行为。
And you tend to respond by scolding, correcting, reminding or doing tasks for kids, which is B-grade attention but good enough at any rate.
3. Make Me behaviours
这些行为包括蔑视，争论，跳动，脾气发脾气和顽固。
These behaviours let parents know that they can't make them do anything they don't want to do.
The goal is power and control.
You know you have a power-seeker on your hands if you feel angry.
你实际上想要让孩子做点什么。
这不漂亮！
If you respond by telling them what to do you often get an argument, more defiance or lack of cooperation.
这些孩子不介意一个好的废料！
我会伤害你的行为
These hurtful behaviours include hit, stealing, refusal to cooperate and saying hurtful things.
The behaviours vary but the goal is the same to retaliate or hurt others around them.
When confronted with these retaliatory behaviours you feel hurt or even threatened.
How could she say such awful things to me?
is a typical reaction.
你也觉得你也希望和孩子一起忍受想要伤害你。
它会变得讨厌！
Goal Related Behaviours
与目标相关的行为有效，因为父母往往与洗衣机周期一样可预测。
当你似乎可能似乎你可以改变孩子的行为，因为当你停止冲动地响应儿童的行为不端。
忽略注意我的行为（并将您的注意力放在其他地方），停止成为一个骡子来帮助我，孩子们，拒绝与力量（并实施后果），并避免在面对报复性行为时明显地表达你的伤害。
Parental Behaviour Change
Sounds easy, often hard to do.
But discipline and behaviour-change are primarily about parental behaviour change.
当孩子少于完美并确定行为的目标时，首先避免你的第一个本能冲动。
然后改变你的常用反应。
走着瞧吧。
试验一下，预计孩子们在变得更好之前会变得更糟。
Hang in there and you will see results in terms of improved behaviour.
The following article was contributed by Michael Grose director of Parent Coaching Australia
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