理解同理心
了解沟通的同理心
Empathy is an emotion that's often misunderstood.
虽然很容易说
“我知道你是多么感觉”
事实往往不是，我们不知道另一个人的感觉如何。
True Empathy
只有当我们个人经历了与另一个人一样遇到同样的情绪时，我们才会遇到我们真正能够真正觉得同理心。
Those of us who have experienced a wide degree of emotions (from the deepest darkest depression to elation and excitement) are those most likely to be able to empathise with others.
After all, it stands to reason that only those who have been depressed will truly understand how it feels to be depressed. Similarly, only those who have won the lottery know how that feels.
光顾
它实际上可以对那些经历某种情绪的人来说非常光顾
“我知道你的感受”
by somebody who clearly doesn't.
Think of a mother who's lost her child. How would she feel to be told "I know how you're feeling" by somebody who hasn't even had children, let alone lost one? Hurt? Bitter? Angry?
虚假的同情心
对于那些在收到虚假同理心脏的人感到愤怒的人来说，这并不罕见。
那些患有痛苦情绪的人正在寻找有人分享他们的感受，而那个人并不一定要拥有同样的感受。
他们所需要的只是一个人会倾听并理解，他们伤害了，而不要光顾他们。
动用你的想象力
If you're not certain that you've experienced the same emotion, it's better to say so rather than imagine you're able to understand how the person feels.
说
"I can't imagine how you must be feeling but I know it must be incredibly painful"
is far better than saying
“我知道你的感受”
In cases where we are able to empathise, our情商工作非常迅速，提醒我们在类似情况下遇到的情绪。例如，如果你经历了由伴侣被遗弃的痛苦，你会感受到另一个人在同样的情况是感受。
重温这些感情可能是痛苦的，但它只是你可以真正同情那些在类似情况下的人。
Stay in Touch with Your Own Feelings
Just as we can numb our feelings with alcohol and drugs, so we can numb our ability to empathise. In general, a drunk who says they know how you feel isn't able to empathise at all.
至少，直到他再次清醒。
He may believe he can empathise because he knows he's experienced similar feelings in the past, but unless he's able to feel them along with you, his empathy will be non-existent.
当我们与我们自己的感情保持联系我们，我们处于更好的位置，以同情他人。
But remember, if we're unable to empathise, it's better to admit it than to pretend we understand because believe me, people will quickly be able to determine whether you truly empathise with them or not.
这篇文章由Sharon Jacobsen提供贡献
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